There may be people around us who are negative, irritating and passing offensive remarks but it is up to us to get affected or not by these people. If we get affected, understand that it is because of our own weakness and not because of the strength of the other person.

It is like watching a horror movie and getting scared. Some people get so much affected by the horror movie that they are not able to forget the movie scenes for a long time and some people just forget once they are out of the cinema theatre. Some even enjoy the horror scenes while watching movie. It is up to us as to what kind of influence we allow others to have on us

- Shri Ramesh Jain

‘I used to earlier get affected by every small comment anybody makes against me and used to suffer for days to come but off late I have learnt how not to get affected and remain calm. This change has made my life much happier.’

‘After my reactions have reduced to people’s comments and situations I find that everybody has started liking me and loving me. They say I have become positive.’

Q: When somebody passes negative comments against us it is very difficult not to get affected. Is there any solution?

A: If you consciously follow these tips you will be able to remain unaffected by the negative comments of people.

   1. Do not react spontaneously to any comment

   2. Try to understand the compulsion of the other person for making such comments.

   3. Know that consciously or unconsciously you have done something which only has
       prompted such comments as nothing in this creation happens without a cause.

   4. Forgive or seek forgiveness from the person in your mind and smile at the event.

   5. Emanate a positive thought in your mind against the negative comment.

   6. Take these comments/events as the result of your own Karma and be happy
      that your karmas are getting extinguished. If you react they will not get
      extinguished and they will reappear in some form or other.

   7. Divert your mind to some activity which gives you joy and happiness before
      the negative comments gets deep rooted in your mind. Free mind is more
      prone to getting affected.

   8. Decide to remain happy all the time.